It Doesn’t Have To Turn Out This Way
“Kayla Giles and her husband, Thomas Coutee, Jr., were embroiled in a
contentious divorce and custody battle when she shot him in 2018,” (Feb.
1, 2022, People.Com)
Dr. Jan Garavaglia says, “About 30% of murdered women were murdered by their intimate partner: husband, ex-husband, fiance, etc.”
When I did premarital counseling there was one critical question that I always asked. It would hopefully avoid horrible, mind-numbing-news flashes like these. I attempted to just be so calm and relaxed the couple wouldn’t suspect a potent argument might soon erupt. At least it often did; only a few avoided it.
“If you get a separation or divorce who gets custody of your children?”
In later years I counseled mainly couples with a blended-family. You know: his, hers and ours. There is one rule I stressed over and over and over. For the marriage to work punishment was to be done by the natural parent. Many times, a well-intentioned step parent, exacts reprimand or correction. Often it would blow up in their face. “You’re not my Dad. I don’t have to listen to you.” Or, “You’re not my Mom. I can’t stand you.” Over hundreds of counseling sessions I heard far worse castigations than these.
It is so sad what is currently going on with marriages and couples who shack up.
The percentage of adults having sex with multiple people is beyond belief and far exceeds anytime in human history. A recent winter Olympics in Vancouver, Canada had about 6,500 Athletes and Officials over the 17 day event. They were provided over 100,000 condoms until they realized that was not enough. So they were given another 8,500.
I hang my head in shame to report this as in the Lord’s Plan for intimate relations He wants purity.
Dr. Jan Garavaglia says, “About 30% of murdered women were murdered by their intimate partner: husband, ex-husband, fiance, etc.”
When I did premarital counseling there was one critical question that I always asked. It would hopefully avoid horrible, mind-numbing-news flashes like these. I attempted to just be so calm and relaxed the couple wouldn’t suspect a potent argument might soon erupt. At least it often did; only a few avoided it.
“If you get a separation or divorce who gets custody of your children?”
In later years I counseled mainly couples with a blended-family. You know: his, hers and ours. There is one rule I stressed over and over and over. For the marriage to work punishment was to be done by the natural parent. Many times, a well-intentioned step parent, exacts reprimand or correction. Often it would blow up in their face. “You’re not my Dad. I don’t have to listen to you.” Or, “You’re not my Mom. I can’t stand you.” Over hundreds of counseling sessions I heard far worse castigations than these.
It is so sad what is currently going on with marriages and couples who shack up.
The percentage of adults having sex with multiple people is beyond belief and far exceeds anytime in human history. A recent winter Olympics in Vancouver, Canada had about 6,500 Athletes and Officials over the 17 day event. They were provided over 100,000 condoms until they realized that was not enough. So they were given another 8,500.
I hang my head in shame to report this as in the Lord’s Plan for intimate relations He wants purity.
STOP arguing thinking I’m just a crusty antique old
geezer. No matter what the world, press, websites and groups of
swingers, sex dating sites, etc. present. God wants
purity.
Without listing all the types of immorality the Bible warns against, let’s consider some statements from God’s Word itself.
Eyesight:
When the Lord Jesus spoke the final description of who will and will not be going to Heaven, he made it very clear: “The one who overcomes will inherit these things, and I will be his God and he will be My son. But for the cowardly, and unbelieving, and abominable, and murderers, and sexually immoral persons, and sorcerers, and idolaters, and all liars, their part will be in the lake that burns with fire and brimstone, which is the second death.” (Revelation 21:7-8)
Never forget:
There’s an option available no matter how you’ve led your life. “The Lord is not slow concerning his promise, as some count slowness; but is patient toward you, not wishing that any should perish, but that all should come to repentance.” (2 Peter 3:9, NHEB)
“You adulterers and adulteresses, do you not know that friendship with the world is hostility toward God? Therefore whoever wants to be a friend of the world makes himself an enemy of God.” (James 4:4, NHEB)The Bible contains 165 warnings against any type of immorality. 165.
Without listing all the types of immorality the Bible warns against, let’s consider some statements from God’s Word itself.
Eyesight:
“I have made a covenant with my eyes; How then could I gaze at a virgin?” Job 31:1)
“But I say to you that everyone who looks at a woman with lust for her has already committed adultery with her in his heart.” (Matt 5:28)Action:
“Can a man take fire in his bosom and his clothes not be burned? Or can a man walk on hot coals and his feet not be scorched? So is the one who goes in to his neighbor’s wife; Whoever touches her will not go unpunished. (Proverbs 6:27-29)Finality:
When the Lord Jesus spoke the final description of who will and will not be going to Heaven, he made it very clear: “The one who overcomes will inherit these things, and I will be his God and he will be My son. But for the cowardly, and unbelieving, and abominable, and murderers, and sexually immoral persons, and sorcerers, and idolaters, and all liars, their part will be in the lake that burns with fire and brimstone, which is the second death.” (Revelation 21:7-8)
Never forget:
There’s an option available no matter how you’ve led your life. “The Lord is not slow concerning his promise, as some count slowness; but is patient toward you, not wishing that any should perish, but that all should come to repentance.” (2 Peter 3:9, NHEB)
Kindness
By Chris Tomlin
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